If you are ready to finally communicate without defensiveness getting in the way... keep reading!
If you want to:
✅ Stop getting defensive so you can actually listen and respond with understanding.
✅ Communicate without your partner or loved one shutting down.
✅ Resolve conflicts in a way that makes both of you feel heard and seen.
✅ Break free from the endless cycle of blame and defensiveness.
✅ Feel a deeper connection in your relationships.
...then you’re in the right place.
Imagine if…
✨ You could express yourself without triggering defensiveness in the other person.
✨ Your partner actually listened instead of shutting down or fighting back.
✨ You felt safe and calm in conversations, even when emotions ran high.
✨ Conflict actually led to more connection instead of more frustration.
✨ You had the exact words and tools to navigate tough conversations with confidence.
Want to make this your reality?
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The Dissolving Defensiveness Workbook
The Dissolving Defensiveness Workbook is your action plan to create open, connected, and productive conversations.
This workbook will help you:
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Understand why people (including you) get defensive—so you can shift out of it in the moment.
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Identify the patterns keeping you stuck in the Blame + Defend Loop of Doom—so you can finally break free.
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Learn why blame and analysis only make things worse—and exactly what to say instead.
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Recognize the hidden wounds from childhood that make you quick to perceive criticism—and how to heal them.
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Use practical exercises, journaling prompts, and scripts—so you can apply these insights to real-life conflicts.
⭐️ Plus, Get a Free Bonus:
A Beginner-Friendly Meditation on How to Feel Difficult Emotions
Many people struggle with defensiveness because they don’t know how to sit with uncomfortable emotions. This guided meditation will help you:
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Stay present with difficult emotions instead of reacting impulsively.
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Build emotional resilience so conflict feels less overwhelming.
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Feel more grounded and in control during tough conversations.
This is for you if…
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You find yourself getting defensive even when you don’t want to.
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Your partner or loved one shuts down or lashes out when you try to talk about problems.
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You keep having the same arguments without resolution.
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You’ve tried books, therapy, or just “doing your best,” but nothing has truly changed.
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You want to feel more calm, connected, and confident in tough conversations.
If this describes you, then Dissolving Defensiveness is the perfect solution for you.
How does it work?
This workbook is divided into two powerful sections:
Part 1:
Understanding Their Defensiveness
- Why people get defensive (and why it’s NOT just about you).
- The Blame + Defend Loop of Doom and how to break it.
- Why blame and analysis backfire—and what to say instead.
- A step-by-step process to translate blame into vulnerability, so you can respond in a way that calms rather than escalates.
Part 2:
Understanding Your Defensiveness
- The two core reasons we get defensive—and how to work through each one.
- How unhealed wounds from childhood make criticism feel unbearable (and how to heal them).
- Nervous system regulation techniques to help you stay grounded in conflict.
- Journaling prompts, scripts, and exercises to shift out of reactivity and into understanding.
By the end of this workbook, you will...
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Know exactly why defensiveness happens and how to stop it.
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Have simple, powerful tools to create more open, connected conversations.
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Feel more confident handling conflict without escalating it.
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Be able to validate your loved one’s experience while still standing up for your own.
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Experience more understanding, trust, and connection in your relationships.
What others are saying:
Hi, I’m Ivy!
I’m a Mindset & Relationship Coach, an effective communication junkie, and a self-compassion enthusiast.
My superpower? Helping you understand yourself on a deeper level so you can feel more connected, secure, and at ease in your closest relationships.
In this workbook I’ll teach you exactly how your mind is unintentionally fueling conflict—so you can finally break the cycle, communicate better, and create the relationship you want.
